10 possible reasons why you’re always- ‘Not Good Enough’
I can’t do it, I’m not good enough.- Sounds familiar?
- You’re constantly comparing and measuring your standards of success against others. e.g. “ So what If I’ve graduated from a Bachelor’s degree, people are graduating with Masters and PhDs, I’m just not smart enough; I’m never gonna get a good job.”
- When you don’t take care of your health, you feel like crap and you underperform. Imagine this- You slept 2 hours the night before, and you try to workout after but you couldn’t lift as heavy as your last record; you start to think: “ Urgh I’m deteriorating rather than improving, I’m never going to be strong.”
- You complain that you’re not good enough but you don’t do anything to change. You still continue doing the same shit everyday that makes you mediocre.
“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”- Jim Rohn
4. You think you should be like wonder woman and you’re suppose to be good at everything. Well news flash girl, you don’t have to because you never will- which goes to my next point.
5. You are a self-proclaimed perfectionist and big-time procrastinator.
“If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done.” ― Ecclesiastes 11:4
6. You’re constantly thinking about the ‘What If’s’ but you don’t look at your current assets and how you can work it to your advantage.
7. You try to do everything but give up everything in the process. You don’t have a goal- something you want to achieve; so you’re constantly stuck in the ‘i’m lost’ phase.
8. You’re not fully present when you’re working on something. So when after you’ve completed the task; you’re like I don’t even remember what I did, must be something insignificant. Again.
9. You don’t wanna admit that you’re just a lazy prick and you’re not willing to put in the effort to succeed, because acknowledging that makes you feel worse about yourself.
10. You constantly think that you’re not good enough- pretty self-explanatory.
“What you think, you become.”- Buddha
You must be thinking: “Well, this girl sounds like she’s giving me advice because she’s got everything in one piece and is living out her life purpose which is making a difference in people’s lives by doing what she’s good at…”
Hell no.
This girl is very aware what it feels like to never be ‘not good enough’ and is still trying to get out of this shit hole.
She scrolls through Instagram looking at her people’s post about a pretty unicorn smoothie bowl they made and she thinks: “WTF I have a degree in food nutrition and I can’t make stuff like that… I’m not healthy enough”
She goes to Crossfit class and she see’s other crossfitters doing pullups and handstands and she thinks: “I’ve been working out for donkey years and I still can’t do any of those… I’m not fit enough”
She and her friend goes travelling together and she sees her friend being the one connecting with people along the way and she thinks: “I can’t talk like that…I’m not sociable enough”
And as she is in the process of writing an article, she thinks: “ Why am I even spending my time doing this, I’m not… OMG STFU ALREADY.
Yea, sorry about that. Just something I have to deal with a lot; fun times eh?Anyway back to topic.
I’m not <insert adjective> enough. I can’t <insert verb>.
You get the gist.
If you don’t feel the same way (You have got it all figured out, and life is good); kudos to you, keep it up!
But If you do, at least know that you’re not alone- in facing this ‘fear’ that is.
I’m not here to offer (or seek for) pity, or start preaching that you should change and start thinking positively by telling yourself ‘You can do it’ everyday (as If you don’t know already with all the other articles out there talking about ‘how to find your why’s’, ‘how to be confident and love yourself’ blah blah blah)……
They are great articles don’t get me wrong.
But sometimes I just wanna shout to the screen: “It’s not as easy as it seems!”
Maybe that’s just me. Oh well.
I just hope to be able to offer some comfort and perhaps feel comforted as well.
There’s no room for judgement here. Only understanding.
Oh and ice cream.
Join me for ice cream? I’m thinking UBE, what about you?;)
